External Focus in Codependency

Shifting Away from the External Focus of Codependency

In codependency we suffer because we have an external focus. Instead of focusing on ourselves, we...

Brutal Honesty in Codependency

Is Brutal Honesty Required to End Codependency?

Do we need to be brutally honest with ourselves to end our codependent patterns? Or could...

Are You Sexually Punitive?

How to Destroy Your Sex Life: Are You Sexually Punitive?

Couples often attend therapy because of sex problems: one wants it (more) and the other one...

Ingredients for a Loving Relationship

What Loving Relationships Are Made Of

Most of us want to have the experience of being in a loving relationship. We have...

The Illusion of Security

The Illusion of Security

Many of us struggle with a perceived lack of security in our lives. We don’t feel...

Happiness Is an Inside Job

Why A Search for Happiness Leads to Unhappiness

We all innocently look for our happiness in all the wrong places, unknowingly creating unhappiness for...

Emotional Safety

The Foundation for a Loving Relationship: Emotional Safety

We all long for a loving relationship. A relationship that allows us to experience deep and...

Loving Relationship

The Main Factor Of A Loving Relationship: A Loving State of Mind

A loving relationship is what most of us want. Thousands of books have been written exploring...

Recurring Relationship Conflict

The Real Cause of Recurring Relationship Conflict: Defending Against Shame

Many of us have been in relationships with lots of conflict. Most of the time that...

The Hidden Truths of Rescuing

The Hidden Truths About Rescuing: When ‘Helping’ Isn’t Helping

Sometimes we meet people who we view as slightly incompetent, vulnerable or in some kind of...