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Are You Sexually Punitive?

How to Destroy Your Sex Life: Are You Sexually Punitive?

Couples often attend therapy because of sex problems: one wants it (more) and the other one doesn’t. On the surface, this may look like a stereotypical problem that the media often addresses in comical...
Sexual Rejection

The Pain of Sexual Rejection

Most adults are fully connected to their sexual needs, which is something healthy and natural. When we choose to be in a monogamous relationship with someone, we usually want to express ourselves sexually with...
Sexual Bids

Bids for Sexual Connection

Drawing on Gottman, bids for connection are an attempt by one partner to elicit attention, affirmation, affection and any other kind of positive connection from their partner. Bids of connection are usually not grand...
Sex and Attachment

The Impact of our Attachment Styles on our Sex Lives

When Sex Is More Than Just Sex: How Attachment Style Affects Our Sex Lives For most healthy adults sex is a vital and important part of their relationship. Sexual desires and needs in humans...
The Avoidant's Sex Life

The Avoidant’s Sex Life

The Avoidant’s Sex Life   Adults with an avoidant attachment style do not connect in healthy, helpful and mature ways with others or themselves. Fearful or dismissive thinking gets in the way of being...